Bulletin Boards - These are sites where "discussion" takes place. They contain a series of messages and responses posted on a public internet "bulletin board" by people from around the world. You do not ever need to post a message of your own. You can simply read the messages posted by others. If you want to post a message, the instructions are usually on the screen. Your message will not immediately appear, so do not expect it to. You may receive responses to your post either by private e-mail or by a public posting on that bulletin board. The participants are generally other bereaved people.

Information Web Sites - These are sites maintained by a person or a group; the sites contain information that you might find useful on a variety of grieving issues. Some information sites operate discussion bulletin boards; some offer e-mail lists you can join; some are merely informative. Almost all information web sites offer what are called "links" to other grief support sites on the web. A "link" is a quick way of connecting to another internet location, without typing in the internet address. You can click your mouse on the "link" and automatically be taken to the described web site.

Memorial Sites - These are on-line memorials. Pictures of those who have died and/or the stories of their lives and deaths are available to the public. Many of the sites invite you to place information in the memorial about someone you love who has died. A few sites charge for this on-line memorial, but most do not. The sites often offer the opportunity to write a message to the person who placed the memorial.

Individual Web Pages - These are generally set up by a parent to memorialize their child. Some are more extensive, with information and "links" to other sites; some include on-line memorials for others.

E-mail Groups - An e-mail list is a support group that communicates through group e-mail. You "subscribe" or join an e-mail list, and e-mail generated by members of the group is automatically received by you in your e-mail box. You can respond to mail individually or to the entire group (a few require that you respond to the whole group). These lists are free of charge. You can join as many as you like. You can also "unsubscribe" for a period if you are going to be away from your computer and do not want the mail to build up. The flow of mail in each group varies at different times and for different groups. The heaviest mail volume at the holidays.

"Chat Rooms" - These are on-line sites where a typed contemporaneous conversation between people across the nation can occur. You type in your contribution to the conversation and the other people "in the chat room" at that time can see what you have typed and can respond immediately.

BULLETIN BOARDS - the internet URL or "address" follows each description. You type the URL under the "find," "keyword," or "address" feature in your Internet browser, and you will be taken to the bulletin board.

Alt.support.grief newsgroup
This is a newsgroup or Usenet group where bereaved persons share experiences, coping techniques, and sympathy. It was set up in December 1994 by Cendra Lynn, who administers GriefNet, another resource.  It is an active bulletin board. There is an instruction sheet or "FAQ," which means "frequently asked questions," but most of the guidelines are common-sense. Anyone can post anything, so there are occasional inappropriate postings like money-making schemes. By and large the posting on alt.support.grief are on topic and supportive. There are also other newsgroups related to grief, such as soc.support.depression.crisis, alt.support.depression, soc.support.depression.misc., alt.life.afterlife, alt.consciousness.near-death-exp, and alt.obituaries, but there are more off-topic postings on these newsgroups.

Grief and Healing Discussion Group - run by Tom Golden. Discussion bulletin board covering wide range of grief topics. Participants are usually bereaved persons.
http://www.webhealing.com/

After-Life Message Board - Administered by the ADC Project, founded by the Guggenheims. Not much traffic on the discussion board. Some portion of the postings are related to bereavement issues.
http://www.after-death.com/msgboard.htm

INFORMATION WEB SITES:

General

The Compassionate Friends - bereaved parents group, pages posted by TCF and various chapters. Chapter sites can be reached through the national site
http://www.compassionatefriends.org/

GriefNet - Death and dying resources - connections with a variety of resources related to death,dying, bereavement, and major emotional and physical losses. Ann Arbor-based resource administered by Cendra Lynn. Lots of general information on handling grief, a bulletin board, a library, info on how you might help others, and some memorials to people who have died. Also has instructions for joining various e-mail lists for grieving parents and for kids surviving a loss.
http://rivendell.org/

Tom Golden’s Crisis, Grief, and Healing pages - terrific site, various support, resources, and links, with particular attention to men’s grief. Washington D.C. therapist Tom Golden has discussion pages and on-line memorials. Also has an audio introduction via RealAudio
http://www.webhealing.com/

Jim Miller's Willowgreen - Grief, Transition, Illness, Caregiving, Older Age, AIDS. Administered by Dr. Jim Miller. Detailed discussion of grief symptoms and GriefList - hints of things to do for effective griefing. This site also sells Miller's tapes, but you can avoid the products link if you wish
http://www.opn.com/willowgreen/

Association for Death Education and Counseling- Professional group for mental health professionals, death educators, caregivers, counselors, researchers, and volunteers.
http://www.adec.org

Bereaved Familes of Ontario Support Center - information, monthly newsletter
http://www.inforamp.net/~bfo

Complete List of Death, Dying, and Grief Related Sites - links, not actually complete
http://www.selfgrowth.com/death.html

Counseling for Loss and Life Changes - information and links
http://www.counselingforloss.com/

Death-Dying.Com - easy site with lots of resources including a funeral planner, articles, resource lists, chat rooms, message boards, kids only and teens only links and "escape place"
http://www.death-dying.com

Death and Dying - projects of the Global Idea Bank - the articles discuss death in a completely different way than most other sites so go into this site with an open mind or do not go
http://www.newciv.org/GIB/death.html

Death, Dying & Grief - Web page by Kay Cabell, primarily a page of links but there is some substantive material.
http://www.emanon.net/~kcabell/death.html

A Death in the Family -- What To Do - short advice
http://www.city2000.com/legal/info/bereavement.html

Coping with the Unexpected Loss of a Loved One - short outline
http://www.cyberstreet.com/grieving/grieving.htm

FAQ for alt.support.grief newsgroup - although in an unattractive format, this FAQ has lots of basic information about grief issues
http://www.funeral.net/faq.htm

FuneralNet -Bereavement Resources page, maintained by Armstrong Funeral Home, links to other pages only
http://www.funeral.net/

Grief and Memorialization Information Center - there is a grief information page and some basic information on other issues, but remember this is a business site, run by Falk Funeral Home -
http://grief.com/

Grief Recovery Online - a site originated for widows and widowers but now available to all bereaved people
http://www.groww.com/index.htm

Grief Shared Is Grief Diminished - links to sites and to poetry
http://www.infomrt.com/Memorial/grief.htm

The Grieving Process - Part of the Against Drunk Driving web pages, useful information and strategies
http://www.netmediapro.com/add/grieving.htm

Growth House Grief and Bereavement - annotated links to bereavement resources
http://www.growthhouse.org/death.html

HVCN Dying, Death, and Grief Information - Dying, Death, and Grief Information Internet Resources. This page is part of the Human Services Infocenter.
http://www.hvcn.org/info/hsvdth.html

Invincible Summer - a well-done web site for bereaved parents who have no surviving children
http://www.drizzle.com/~hall/invsum/

A Handy Guide - Death - Bereavement Research Network, a list of links, some related to bereavement, some to death and dying issues
http://ahandyguide.com/cat1/d/d176.htm

My Mom Is a Survivor - bereaved parents acknowledgement site with a message board, poetry, and more
http://www.moms-dads.com/index2.html

Mothers in Sympathy and Support - very supportive pages about parental grief, with very specific and helpful information that is no place else on the web. "Those who can't hear the music think the dancer is mad."
http://www.misschildren.org/

Magic Stream: Death, Dying, and Grief - links to pages on grief, student grief, grief discussion
http://fly.hiwaay.net/~garson/death.htm

Pen Parents - a message board and place to find other parents who have suffered losses similar to your own so that you can beginning sharing one on one.
http://www.penparents.org/

What Can I Say? - article on what others should say and do to help the bereaved
http://www.heartlight.org/feature/feature_070396_whatcan.html

Mental Health Net Self-help Grief Resources What is grief? A compilation of grief FAQ
http://mentalhelp.net/guide/grief.htm

Death, Loss, and Grief: Moving Through Grief, Hampden-Sydney College: Counseling Center
http://www.hsc.edu/admin/counsel/coping.html

Surviving the Holidays: Mixing Grieving and Giving- some basic advice
http://www.death-dying.com/holiday/giving.htm

Grief - very good, updated list of links with expansive discussion and user ratings
http://mentalhelp.net/guide/grief.htm

Children

Am I Still a Big Brother or Sister? - essay from the Mothers in Sympathy and Support page
http://www.misschildren.org/cherish/sibling.html

Children Coping With Grief and Dying- list of books about loss and illness for children and their caregivers collected by Lee Anne Phillips
http://www.grannyg.bc.ca/ckidbook/grief.html

Children and Grief - brochure written by the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry
http://www.aacap.org/factsFam/grief.htm

The Child's Loss -- Death, Grief and Mourning - General Guidelines for Caretakers of Children Experiencing Death, a CIVITAS Initiative Product, out of Baylor University, by Dr. Bruce D. Perry
http://www.bcm.tmc.edu/civitas/death.htm

Julie's Place - Online home for bereaved teenagers and children who have lost a sibling.  Message boards and helpful information
http://www.juliesplace.com/

Teen-Age Grief
http://www.smartlink.net/~tag/index.html

Twinless Twins - a support page for those who have lost a twin at any age
http://www.fwi.com/twinless/

Camp Paz - a camp in Arizona for children who have suffered a loss.
http://www.primenet.com/~cfinch/Introduction.html

Early Death

Sudden Infant Death Syndrome Pages
http://sids-network.org

HAND Houston's Aid in Neonatal Death - homepage
http://www.hern.org/~hand/

SAND - Western Australia
http://www.sandsvic.org.au/

SANDS Stillbirth & Neonatal Death Support
http://www.sandswa.org.au/

The Miscarriage Manual - A page sponsored by INCIID, the infertility support group for parents who have recently experienced the death of a child through miscarriage, stillbirth, or other perinatal loss.
http://www.inciid.org/bb2/message2/11427.htm

A Heartbreaking Loss - a website for parents who have interrupted a pregnancy because of poor prenatal prognosis since these parents have unique grief issues
http://www.erichad.com/ahc/

Suicide

SA/VE When the Worst Has Happened - minimal post suicide support page
http://www.save.org/worst.html

Suicide Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ)
http://www.lib.ox.ac.uk/internet/news/faq/archive/suicide.info.html/

Growth House Suicide -information and links
http://www.growthhouse.org/suicide.html

1000 Deaths - site for suicide survivor support and memorialization
http://www.1000deaths.com/

Oasis Counsel and Comfort Center - a Christian suicide support community also known as Wendy's Wings
http://www.oasiscc.org/ccc.html

Violent Death

Parents of Murdered Children POMC: Parents of Murdered Children - excellent website with lots of resources
http://www.pomc.com/

Victims Place - Homicide Victims resources and memorial pages
http://www.eskimo.com/~yaquii/victimpg.htm

Drunk Driving

Drunk Driving/ADD - The Grieving Process - Against Drunk Driving
http://www.netmediapro.com/add/grieving.htm

MADD - web pages for national organization
http://www.gran-net.com/madd/

MADD- web page for North Carolina organization
http://www.charweb.org/organizations/madd/maddhom.htm

AIDS

Marty Howard’s HIV/AIDS Home Page - links to various AIDS sites, including caregiver sites, but no bereavement sites
http://www.smartlink.net/~martinjh/

Afterlife

After-Death Communications Page
http://www.after-death.com/

International Association for Near Death Studies
http://www.iands.org/iands

Religious

Infant Death & Eternity - ChristianAnswers.Net - Christian Answers Network, concerns the death and eternal state of infants
http://christiananswers.net/q-eden/edn-f006.html

Called to Care: The Death of a Child - a program to help local congregations train lay people
http://www.ucc.org/caring/child.htm

Memorial Pages: On-line memorials, some are free, some cost.   Don't necessarily avoid the memorial sites where there is a fee, when you are looking at the sites to read stories or get memorial page ideas. 

AIDS Memorial at The Body
http://www.thebody.com/memorial/

Angels Online - memorial page for one year for $50 fee
http://www.angelsonline.com

Angel Roster - a free short listing and link to your separate web page
http://members.aol.com/Elfcries/angellinks.html

Children's Memorial Wall - honoring children who fought leukemia and childhood cancers
http://www.themaxfoundation.org/thewall/

Cyber Eternal Life
http://www.cyberlife.com/

Dearly Memorial - nice site, but no additional free listings available because site full
http://www.geocities.com/Heartland/Valley/8314/memorials.html

DUI Victims Memorial Page - moving display
http://stopdui.fsn.net/victims.html

Eternal Memories Memorials
http://www.cire.com/memorial/

Eternal Monuments in Cyberspace - provides web pages, cost associated with listings, first page is definitely a business page -
http://www.inforamp.net/~bems/

Garden of Remembrance - listings for a fee, apparently not updated recently
http://www.islandnet.com/~deathnet/garden.html

GROWW Landscape Memorial - short memorials on "wall" and links to web page memorials
http://www.groww.com/land2.htm

Heartland Hills Memorial Garden - divided into memorials for those under and over age twenty-five, with free listings
http://www.geocities.com/Heartland/Hills/5854/

Heavenly Playground - the work of Peggy Haskins, this well-done free site offers web page memorials
http://www.iamaangel.com/intro.html

Honored Babies - free listing and pages for in utero or neonatal losses, very nicely done
http://www.kjsl.com/~honored/

In Loving Memory - web memorials on GriefNet
http://griefnet.mgarts.net/memorials/index.html

In Memory of Those We Love - free listings with photographs available here, click the candles at the bottom of the web page
http://www.geocities.com/~gypsyshani/candle.html

Internet Obituary Network - costs, based on words and photograph - listings for 1 year + four weeks
http://www.obituary.com/index.html

Jordan's Angel Friends - nice children's site
http://www.geocities.com/Heartland/Acres/8787/

Little Angels Memorial Pages - free short listing
http://www.geocities.com/SouthBeach/Lights/4198//memorial.html

Memorial Online - free listing
http://www.execulink.com/~bapar/memorial

Memorial Tributes - click on link for Tributes at the web page Counseling for Loss and Life Changes
http://www.counselingforloss.com/

Memorials to Lost Children - not a site for memorials but a link page to memorial web pages elsewhere on the internet
http://www.drizzle.com/~hall/invsum/links/Memorials_to_Lost_Children/index.html

Obituary Page associated with Virtual Memorial Garden
http://catless.ncl.ac.uk/Obituary

Organ and Tissue Donor Memorial Pages
http://www.transweb.org/memorial/memorial_donor.html

Our Angels in Heaven - click on memorial wall names for web pages, offered free
http://members.xoom.com/Crick/main.htm

Our Children - short free memorials at Invincible Summer site for bereaved parents with no surviving children
http://www.drizzle.com/~hall/cgi-bin/dbman/db.cgi?db=child&uid=default

Our Children Remembered - site provided by The Compassionate Friends, Atlanta.   Listings are free but they do ask for a donation to TCF-Atlanta to cover the work involved in setting up the site
http://www.geocities.com/Heartland/Meadows/2474/index.html

Perpetual Memorials - various prices from free temporary listing to permanent expensive web pages
http://www.memorials.com/

A Place To Honor Grief - Tom Golden’s Honor Page
http://www.webhealing.com/honor.html

Remembering of Loved Ones Who Died of AIDS
http://gbgm-umc.org/cam/memorials/memorial.html

Scouter’s Memorial - youth and adult members of worldwide scouting movement memorialized.
http://www.gate.net/~jolonoff/scouters.html

Victims Place - Homicide Victims resources and memorial pages. Free listings offered.
http://www.eskimo.com/~yaquii/victimpg.htm

Virtual Memorial Garden - simple memorial markers at present
http://catless.ncl.ac.uk/VMG

Virtual Memorials - nice site, one time fees range from $35 to $225
http://virtual-memorials.com

Web Memorial - unclear whether there is a cost
http://www.infomrt.com/Memorial

Pages by Parents  There is no effort to be complete here, simply to give examples of sites; there are many links to parent's pages in the memorial pages listed above.

Bill Chadwick (Zoom) - pages with links
http://www.premier.net/~zoom/

Jack Villari - A Grief Page - fairly Christian view, pages with links, poetry
http://www.indirect.com/www/vanessah/jack/grief.htm

Stu Upchurch - Jason’s page - pages with links, ideas for remembrances
http://www.mcs.net/~upchurch/jasonspg.html

In Memory of Tonianne Vertullo - Maintained by her uncle. Pictures of angels and poems about the death of a child.
http://www.conterra.com/drron/tonianne.htm

Brion Steven Sheriff: story of Brion, who was killed by a drunk driver
http://member.aol.com/brionsheri/brion.html

Martin Richard Friedmann- this is done by friends with help from family and is a good example of a page that really gives the feel of the lost child's life
http://www-white.media.mit.edu/~martin/

Mail Lists - by joining e-mail lists, you receive communications between parents or other survivors on grief issues

Grief, Loss & Recovery Mailing List ~ Prodigy mailing list, open to all with internet access. To join the GLR Mailing List, send an email to: majordomo@listserv.prodigy.com with the following command in the body of the message (skip the subject line): subscribe grief.

Grief-Net groups - topics overlap, join as many lists as you think you would benefit from; general discussion list for any topic related to death, dying, bereavement, or other major loss. Grief-parents is the general parents' support group for parents who have had a child of any age die from any cause, whether recently or long ago. Several other groups have spun off from grief-parents. These are: griefparents-accidents, a group for parents whose children have died due to some accidental cause; griefparents-adultchild, for parents whose children were adults when they died; griefparents-neonate, for parents whose children died due to miscarriage, still birth, or died as neonates (soon after being born); griefparents-onlychild is for parents whose only child has died; griefparents-suicide is for parents whose child committed suicide; adult-sibs a list for adults and older adolescents who have had a sibling die, whether recently or long ago; kids-to-kids is our support group for children dealing with any major loss. Adults may lurk but only kids may send messages; grief-men is our group for bereaved men who want to talk with other men about their loss; grief-chat - email list - Griefnet general grief discussion list. To subscribe to any list, send an e-mail message with a blank subject line to MAJORDOMO@FALCON.IC.NET In the body of the message type: subscribe<put name of group> followed by your e-mail address. For questions, contact Cendra Lynn (cendra@rivendell.org)

Survivor is an e-mail list maintained by a Christian ministry for survivors of suicide attempts and those who have lost friends and loved ones as a result of suicide or traumatic death. It is a new e-mail group, so I do not know how religious the tenor will be. Form to subscribe is located at:
http://www.pleasant.org/pleasant/sarah/mental/survivor.html

Suicide Survivors mailing list provides an electronic support group for people who have had a family member, close friend, or loved one complete suicide. Membership on the list is open to anyone seeking emotional support regarding the death of someone close to them due to suicide and to people willing to offer support in a non-judgmental manner. The stigma surrounding suicide can make it extremely difficult for survivors to deal with their grief and can cause them also to feel terribly isolated. This list provides one avenue where people can discuss and begin to resolve these feelings in an emotionally supportive environment. E-mail request to: suicide-survivors-request@research.canon.com.au    Put: 'subscribe' in the body of the message

infanloss - Infant loss Support Group is an e-mail list, in which parents who have lost infants can participate. Address to:majordomo@taex001.tamu.edu     Leave subject title empty. In the body of message write : subscribe infanlos your e-mail address

Lostangels - Group for those who have lost a twin, triplet, or any mulitple. Send e-mail to Lostangels-request@Tripcom.COM      Leave subject line empty.  In the body of the message write: subscribe